Big Bees + Little Bees

If you’ve ever heard the phrase “you’ve got a bee in your bonnet,” you probably have a few Southern relatives and/or you’re a lot like me. This idiom just means that you’re obsessing over something you can’t get out of your head. Growing up, my mom often said this to me and my sisters, and it was almost always about shopping. One of us had most likely seen something adorable at a store and didn’t buy it, then spent the rest of the day talking about how we needed to go back and get it. Different scenarios include: seeing something online for 40% off and thinking/talking about it until you order it, or asking a girl at Starbucks where she got her dress and then worrying if the boutique still has it, when you’ll have time to get there, etc. Some may call this “OCD” or “a shopping addiction,” but welcome to your new favorite euphemism, a bee in your bonnet.

My sisters and I took this to a whole new level by making lists of the bees in our respective bonnets, based on how much we needed them. These lists soon became “Big Bees” and “Little Bees.” Big Bees are items you need RIGHT THIS INSTANT, like that necklace on sale, the newest Naked palette, or a dress for an upcoming event. Little Bees aren’t as crucial, or are more long-term, expensive items that you know are a little unrealistic to purchase right away. I once even made a “Queen Bees” list of things I needed like yesterday, but that got too dangerous. I keep my bees lists as notes on my phone so that when I’m shopping, I don’t buy (too many) things I don’t need; I can focus on getting things that I know I’ve been wanting. Call me crazy, but it (probably) totally saves money — or just makes me want more things, whatever.

When there’s a major holiday coming up such as Christmas or, more importantly, one of our birthdays, my sisters and I sometimes ask each other to share our bees lists to get gift ideas. See? It’s a good idea and you know it. You’ve probably even stopped reading this and are making lists of your own. Check out my bees below!
Big Bees:

  • Neon Blazer: Imagine this neon pink number layered on top of a white summer dress. Need I say more?
  • Floral Skater Skirt: Floral print is huge for spring/summer 2014, and skater skirts are having a major moment as well. Pair them both together and it’s magic.
  • Nala Necklace: An elephant charm meets an initial pendant. Moon and Lola, you’ve done it again.
  • Cute One-Piece: One-pieces no longer have to mean you’re overweight and/or have had 12 kids. I saw this one last week at the Marysia Swim event and it gave me a serious bee in my bonnet.
  • Mint Workout Pants: I feel like these will give me the motivation to work out. If not, they’ll make great pants to catch up on my DVR.
  • Drop Earrings: The only earrings I wear are studs aka I need to up my game.
  • Essie Fashion Playground: My favorite hue from Essie’s Spring 2014 Collection and possibly one of her best names yet.
  • Summer Maxi Dress: Bright colors, fun print, and a back cutout? I will live in this dress this summer.
  • Palazzo Pants: I’ve been searching for the perfect palazzos that don’t make me look like a clown at the circus — these could be it.
  • Cutout Sandals: How stunning would these be with my skater skirt? They’re basically a package deal.
  • Everyday Wedge: My wedges have seen better days; they’ve been through college parties, walked infinite distances on shopping trips and to/from the bar… It’s time to swap them out for these beauties.
  • Black Sun Hat: Recently I’ve been afraid of wrinkled/the sun, so this is a responsible investment. Also, picture it with the black one-piece — so chic it hurts.
  • Fit Bit: If I had this, I’d be able to tell you the exact quantitative data for the “infinite distances” mentioned above.
  • Printed Crop Top: This is perhaps a want, not a need, but just look at it!

Little Bees:

  • Mirrored Ray Ban Aviators: I do already have Ray Ban aviators, demoting these to the Little Bees list, but they’re beautiful and I need them so they’re on here.
  • Mara Hoffman Dress: I’m recently obsessed with everything Mara Hoffman. I saw this marvelous maxi at Charleston Fashion Week and I’ve been daydreaming about it ever since.
  • Louis Vuitton Speedy: Of course I have enough purses, so this isn’t a time-sensitive Bee, but it’s something I need at some point.
  • Tailored Chambray Shirt: I have an oversized chambray shirt that I pretty much live in, but I want a more tailored one that can be dressed up a little more.
  • Everyday Sandals: During the summer, I whittle my poor sandals down to scraps. I need a good, sturdy pair to replace some of my borderline-broken ones when that fateful time comes.
  • Nars Lipstick in Schiap: I’ve been meaning to try this color forever, but my lips kind of hate lipstick so it will remain a Little Bee until my dermatologist can work her magical healing powers.
  • Michael Kors Chain Link Watch: I’ve had the blonde tortoise MK watch for years, but I’m over it. Don’t you wish Michael had a trade-in option?!
  • Perfect Trench: This is something every woman needs. Not a pressing issue, but sometime in the near to distant future.
  • Long Necklace: I recently realized that I only buy short, bib-type necklaces. Perfect excuse to get more jewelry!
  • Black Jumpsuit: This will be perfect to dress up or down this summer — I just haven’t found the right one.
  • Big Girl Camera: This big-ticket item should probably be moved up to my Big Bees list. I’m a blogger for goodness sake — this is a necessity.
  • They’re Real Mascara: I’ve heard amazing things about this mascara but I’m waiting until my current mascara runs out to purchase. See guys, I’m frugal!
  • David Yurman Buckle Bracelet: I really want this, but it’s way overpriced a little expensive, so it will have to sit in purgatory as a Little Bee until I win the lottery.
  • Valentino Rockstud Slingbacks: See “lottery” comment.

This blog post may make you think I’m a materialistic shopaholic, but no, I’m just a fashion blogger. We possess the blessing/curse of having to think about this stuff. I just think these lists are a great way to organize my wants & needs so I don’t buy unnecessary things.

What are some of your biggest bees?

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9 thoughts on “Big Bees + Little Bees

  1. yes! love this… i do a similar thing but i never really had a name for it (so thank you!)
    big bees: house of harlow necklace the mini pave starburst. i need to just buy it. i’ve been obsessing about it for way too long. a scalloped black swim suit (similar to the one you picked)! a single breasted trench coat that is actually cute and not too old looking. tan.

    little bees: a gold and black watch. this black ellington bag i have had my eye on for a while and some summer skirts!

    xo jillian – cornflake dreams

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